tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.comments2023-02-18T07:05:31.288-08:00Read a Goddamn BookM'rishttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05469734282996556319noreply@blogger.comBlogger124125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-1826613858901934642023-02-18T07:05:31.288-08:002023-02-18T07:05:31.288-08:00It took me 7 years to stumble upon it, but thanks ...It took me 7 years to stumble upon it, but thanks for taking the time to write this post. I haven't worn a dress or skirt in eons (my cenobite bridesmaid ensemble doesn't count) because of how exposed I feel in them. I used to love putting on a rockin' skirt with some knee-high boots, finally getting to dress like my heroes and see that reflected in the mirror. Now it's an ongoing internal debate: did my personal style simply evolve away from that as I grew beyond emulating my heroes? Or is that a part of myself that's sadly been repressed because of the way men's behavior made me feel? Or are the two inseparable? After all, personal evolution is constantly influenced by the social ecosystem in which we live.<br /><br />It just pisses me off to no end, and it was a lesson hard learned: if a man *perceives* you as inviting him to touch you or otherwise handle you (consciously or not) in a way that makes you feel preyed upon, mainstream social ettiquette does not make allowance for you to object. If you do, *you* are seen as the violator, and the man the victim.<br /><br />Add on the fact that so much of this dynamic has simply been copy-pasted into so many queer spaces, and voila: it's pants from here on out.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07396066145576192098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-56939943080786318502018-05-12T20:46:33.728-07:002018-05-12T20:46:33.728-07:00Hey! I just want to champion and protect the Jewis...Hey! I just want to champion and protect the Jewish-American community - that’s all. Please don’t let others’ Facebook posts paint me with a broad brush. Thanks so much :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17708227411008065177noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-57185165051080445652016-03-29T17:43:06.675-07:002016-03-29T17:43:06.675-07:00OK, I am clearly way behind catching up on my blog...OK, I am clearly way behind catching up on my blog reading. But amen to this. A-fuckin'-men. We all have a story like this, or ten, or a hundred. Thank you for writing it.Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03079453244911396627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-78718809008075891442016-01-01T20:56:25.915-08:002016-01-01T20:56:25.915-08:00Totally been there. *otter hugs*Totally been there. *otter hugs*Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03079453244911396627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-30246335728527845792015-12-30T15:35:52.693-08:002015-12-30T15:35:52.693-08:00Silly lizard, TAKE YOUR MEDS. The otters like hum...Silly lizard, TAKE YOUR MEDS. The otters like humans far better than lizards.Gelfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04295751711654852760noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-68747344380508302312014-03-28T09:08:47.321-07:002014-03-28T09:08:47.321-07:00Twin Peaks has a birthday club Twin Peaks has a birthday club Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03772451606365328412noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-86923288229988629662013-10-17T06:22:26.419-07:002013-10-17T06:22:26.419-07:00Everyone deserves a "Have-a-great-day!" ...Everyone deserves a "Have-a-great-day!" moment everyday! Deb Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04553478272258122781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-21808552010720643602013-10-16T15:51:45.538-07:002013-10-16T15:51:45.538-07:00So true.So true.Ahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12965324911370139870noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-5828363535155864482013-09-05T04:59:38.975-07:002013-09-05T04:59:38.975-07:00Try it! Bdayo.Com was created with one goal in min...Try it! <a href="http://www.bdayo.com/" rel="nofollow">Bdayo.Com</a> was created with one goal in mind to help our users enjoy, celebrate, and remember their birthday! Bdayo allows you to find unlimited amount of <a href="http://www.bdayo.com/" rel="nofollow">Birthday Freebies</a> in your area and offer unique features to help you learn more about that special day!<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-88855530896550952562013-08-14T13:58:41.080-07:002013-08-14T13:58:41.080-07:00Haha fun!Haha fun!Tessa:https://www.blogger.com/profile/13155106758771655179noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-12722156917397783942013-06-21T14:19:13.115-07:002013-06-21T14:19:13.115-07:00Well said. Of course, knowing why it's wrong d...Well said. Of course, knowing why it's wrong doesn't offer anyone a viable solution, though discussion could lead that way. So I ask, are you going to write the guide that gives the socially inept some semblance of aptitude? (Please say yes.)Benhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17085900574125528257noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-59997394067113912082013-06-12T05:20:46.164-07:002013-06-12T05:20:46.164-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.kayliamelihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15804918430319190836noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-37181367025321159402013-04-24T06:11:40.126-07:002013-04-24T06:11:40.126-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Russhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01827288466128984960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-82865051861053172842013-04-24T06:09:39.314-07:002013-04-24T06:09:39.314-07:00Hi.. I know all about you, creepy, smart, sarcasti...Hi.. I know all about you, creepy, smart, sarcastic, all of it. guys get scared and they run away. and you're not gonna scare me away. ive been on your doorstep for 5 fucking years.. I want your friendship! will you let me into your heart? we were best friends a long time ago! I love you! (non-creepy)... eh. send me a message... we can resume normal communications like normal people instead of me sounding like a stalker... Keep in touch!! argh<br /><br />its been 15 years.. can w etalk?<br /><br />look your face may not represent cosmo magazine.<br /><br />but to me it represents marissa and i love you. I think of your face and I love you.<br /><br />i knew marissa at summercamp a long time ago.<br /><br /> carney still wonderes what happened to you.. he's busy workin as an engineer for airplane engines. crazy right??<br /><br />send me a message sometime.. I value you. and i regret being a summercamp dufus and i understand your feelings.. you told me at summercamp that i was too busy for you but i was 15 and didnt get it. look youve always been a best friend to me and i value the times we shared.. when i think of sumemr camp i think of you and less of all the shallow people. the best tiems were you, me and carney, and tod, and walter, and chris!!!Russhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01827288466128984960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-14633270603252303492013-04-23T14:06:24.592-07:002013-04-23T14:06:24.592-07:00everyone's always looking to get hurteveryone's always looking to get hurtRusshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01827288466128984960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-49687674526837111602013-04-20T02:06:01.472-07:002013-04-20T02:06:01.472-07:00Great article! I especially loved this point you m...Great article! I especially loved this point you made. check this with <a href="http://www.sangetharao.com/about_me.html" rel="nofollow">Bangalore Escort</a> <br />Lizahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16746064379770861951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-82522292763147561372013-04-16T22:28:50.465-07:002013-04-16T22:28:50.465-07:00Thanks, Kate. I tried to lose my shit without goin...Thanks, Kate. I tried to lose my shit without going to his level. Glad to know that I accomplished that.<br /><br />(Also wahhhhhhh stop being so far away wahhhhhhhhh.)M'rishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05469734282996556319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-65801887558006544842013-04-16T22:27:41.605-07:002013-04-16T22:27:41.605-07:00I like the part where he flips it, and suddenly I&...I like the part where he flips it, and suddenly I'M overstepping HIS boundaries, and creeping HIM out. By what, exactly? Using my words to say "no, I don't like this, this isn't ok?" Does he think that name calling is going to get me to change my mind, to go sniveling to him with an apology for offending HIS delicate sensibilities?<br /><br />And, right, with 50+ ladies banging down his door for a hot piece of that, why's he messaging girls in other states that he doesn't think he's going to get along with, anyway?M'rishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05469734282996556319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-86650519823668542032013-04-16T22:24:57.349-07:002013-04-16T22:24:57.349-07:00Sometimes I message these sorts of dudes (this one...Sometimes I message these sorts of dudes (this one and yours one), knowing full well it's gonna be a train wreck, because I seriously want to know: What the jesus fuck is running through your brain? How do you think these interactions are going to turn out? What are you getting out of them? Do they WORK?<br /><br />That, and because there's a part of me that really thinks that in these cases, silence is consent. If I don't respond to this and call your shit out, you're probably just going to keep doing it. You're probably just going to keep doing it anyway, but at least I didn't let it slide and pretend like it didn't mean anything. Words mean things. People like these asshats don't get to exist in a void where they get to say these things and it's all some sort of big joke that us poor, fragile women just don't understand.M'rishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05469734282996556319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-75891665286870369632013-04-16T22:20:10.977-07:002013-04-16T22:20:10.977-07:00As for the bathing suit pic - if you haven't s...As for the bathing suit pic - if you haven't seen it, it's pretty tame. It doesn't show my face at all, and I'm wearing board shorts. All it really proves is that yeah, I really do weigh 111. And if some dude is fapping to a normally proportioned girl shaped thing that's well within the healthy BMI range, y'know, good for him.M'rishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05469734282996556319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-88777203326869811082013-04-16T22:18:15.941-07:002013-04-16T22:18:15.941-07:00Hey Sarah! I love that you're reading this now...Hey Sarah! I love that you're reading this now. =D<br /><br />I've been internet dating since before I joined Theta (let's not talk about how old this makes me feel...), so, yeah, Defcon Insult Alpha is definitely not new territory for me. (Which, I mean, in and of itself is upsetting - that this is a go-to reaction for dudes that women have just learned is a thing that happens? That's fucked.)<br /><br />And no, he totally didn't deserve a response. 98% of the time, I just let the first message slide into the delete bin, and that's usually that. And the other 2% of the time, I just like fighting. This time, I decided that calling me a Republican for not messaging him back was above the line of "upsetting but acceptable douche-ness," and deserved some sort of pushback. And then, y'know, devolved into name calling and fuck that, I'm not letting you call me names and get away with it, even if I'm 100% sure that I will never get through your thick skull and thank GOD you live 1500 miles away from me, otherwise I would run you over with a bus myself.<br /><br />Anyway. Yeah. I'm sorry that single-date-dude called you fat. (Because it's rude, and also because, the hell?) I was talking to my girls about it last weekend, about this whole awful thing where you can believe that you're wonderful and beautiful and amazing, and then some stranger calls you a name, and whammo; it goes right to the gut. What IS that? How do we STOP that?M'rishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05469734282996556319noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-91143213970935559712013-04-16T20:49:20.131-07:002013-04-16T20:49:20.131-07:00I like that you used "wont," which I ima...I like that you used "wont," which I imagine, if he noticed it at all, he assumed was a misspelled word. He was truly awful, but I enjoy that while being 100% rational and cogent, you drew out all kinds of bad arguments on his part, making him look steadily worse. You come out looking all the more amazing. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-34480645913573578872013-04-16T18:56:14.124-07:002013-04-16T18:56:14.124-07:00Wow... what a jerk (putting it lightly). But, real...Wow... what a jerk (putting it lightly). But, really, I don't even know why he's wasting his time messaging a 'troll face' like you when he's got like '50+' gals banging down his door over that creepy line. <br /><br />Who does this joker think he's fooling? :/ Srsly..- Cindy -https://www.blogger.com/profile/07710078886792426144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-12189684413467321972013-04-16T18:27:18.401-07:002013-04-16T18:27:18.401-07:00Also, I'm sorry. He clearly just can't ha...Also, I'm sorry. He clearly just can't handle rejection, and just needed to make it your fault for being a (wince) troll, not his fault for being a dick. And an actual troll, as it turns out.Psyche Z. Readyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099676367714640805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2161550761281433348.post-6820658312245114452013-04-16T18:25:39.291-07:002013-04-16T18:25:39.291-07:00Recently a guy sent me a message that wasn't t...Recently a guy sent me a message that wasn't that interesting, but I clicked on his profile to check him out. After learning that he was 15 years older than me, barely literate, and had only one picture posted which was taken from far away, I deleted the message and moved on. FIVE MINUTES after he'd sent the first message, he sent me another message saying, (paraphrased): "Typical. You say you're into nerdy guys but when a real nerd comes along you want nothing to do with him." And then a little diatribe on how being geeky is a fad and other nonsense. <br /><br />Other guys, when I turn them down, send me 3 or 4 messages pleading- "trust me, I'm older, but I act young!" (is that supposed to sound good to me?) or "just give me a chance, I promise!". <br /><br />I wonder to myself- do they really want to date a woman they've coerced into dating them? Would that ever feel good to anyone?<br /><br />Psyche Z. Readyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03099676367714640805noreply@blogger.com